Updated: Feb 2, 2021
**This blog post contains content of strong language.
Do you have a squeezer in your life? A person who likes to pick at your sensitivities, who loves to point out your imperfections, or who enjoys squeezing you in areas that when you're squeezed the yuckiest shi* comes out. (anger, raising your voice, cussing, defensiveness)
I've read that what comes out is what’s inside.
I could make this blog about the “ones” who squeeze us, yet the truth is that healing comes when we recognize what's INSIDE.
Let me give you an example;
Let’s say your squeezer reminds you of a past failure and then let’s you know that they feel you're still majorly “flawed”.
These feelings that this person shares can hurt deeply, especially if you have taken great pains to better yourself and believe that you are not this person they are saying you are.
Why does it hurt to have this person say these things to you?
Because you want to be accepted as you are, all in all.
Do you believe what they say?
You should not.
Have you made the mistakes they remind you about?
Possibly, yes. (Everyone lives in a state of learning lessons.)
Have you been willing to face your mistakes?
Should you feel shame regarding your past?
No, but you must make amends with your mistakes.
Does it still hurt when someone reminds you of the past?
It can hurt to remember past mistakes.
Why do you get angry when this person reminds you?
Because you want to defend yourself.
Why do you defend yourself?
Because you want to be accepted as the person you ARE.
What if this person can’t accept you?
That is their choice. You can’t change their acceptance.
What do you do when you can’t control how someone feels about you?
You must remind yourself of who you are, and love yourself so much that their opinion of you doesn't affect your behavior or life.
May we see the squeezer as a good. May we embrace the pressure. May we heal.
We must work on the stuff inside, and be responsible for how we react to being squeezed.
May we all soon have only good stuff inside, may we respond with calm and gentle responses, or simply remain quite.
How are you? Have you ever been squeezed? How do you respond?
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*Disclaimer - This blog is not intended to be a replacement for medical or mental health treatment.