• Heather Lynn

How You Treat People Can Determine Who They Become

Yes, it seems silly the need to even say this title. I saw her behavior change after entering a relationship with someone who struggled to treat her with respect and kindness. She wanted to be strong, to treat this person how she wanted to be treated, to accept this persons flaws and give them the benefit of the doubt. She tried for a very long time to not take offense to this persons disrespectful and demeaning verbiage. She read books, research articles, and blogs seeking new ways to help her hold her own, and still be kind. In the end, she failed. she began to become the very person that she had always spoken against. She began to cuss, argue, scream, react to every word spoken to her, and then felt guilty for reacting to their mistreatment. She would withdrawal from the people she loved, become quite and withdrawn. Why couldn't she just walk away, why did she continue to engage and become someone she didn't recognize?

Anyone left in this sort of environment will begin to change, they will begin to act differently, they will change how they see the world around them, and even possibly change the way they interacted with other people. Mistreatment causes harm.

I feel that if you have never been mistreated you might assume the people you meet who are reactive, feisty, self protective and even aloof might just be this way. I believe they could have become this way, at no fault of their own.

You can't go around blaming others for your behavior or bad habits, yet there is an understanding that goes into why someone is as they are. I think it's important to be self aware, to learn, and change behavior that is not working in your favor, if you have been mistreated and find that you have become someone that you don't recognize or like, please seek help to find your way back to goodness. If you happen to be the person who is mistreating others, get help, the humans in your life deserve to become the best versions of themselves.

Are you safe right now? If you are not safe right now reach out. Email me-safefornowblog@gmail.com or call one of the many resources. https://www.safefornowblog.com/need-help

P.S. How you treat animals too.

*Disclaimer - This blog is not intended to be a replacement for medical or mental health treatment.


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